Don’t believe in love at first sight, says expertJune 22nd, 2009 - 1:36 pm ICT by ANI
Melbourne, June 22 (ANI): Think you’ve found ‘the one’ after making eye contact with that random guy on the train or the girl you saw at the coffee shop? Well, forget them, suggests a psychiatrist and relationship expert who insists the myth of love at first sight is not only untrue but is to blame for many unhappy relationships and failed marriage.
Gordon Livingston says it’s ‘mindless’ to think that sometimes the first encounter is enough to fall in love with someone.
“It’s impossible to make those kind of judgments until you really know someone,” the Courier Mail quoted Livingston as saying.
“There’s certainly such thing as attraction at first sight, and in retrospect you (may) have been right that this was the person, but often those initial chemical surges betray us,” he added.
Livingston said that society and advertising portray a certain look as being “beautiful”, but this can mislead us and confuse our ability to make decisions about potential partners.
“We’re automatically drawn to (those deemed beautiful) on an almost instinctual basis but they may not have those inner qualities that make for satisfying marriage. This is why it’s so important to know somebody,” he said. (ANI)
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